The ego is a social construct, much of it a mirror of the oppressive society. It’s selfish. It’s scared. It’s competitive. It’s self-centered by definition ie; the term, egotistical. Petty. Spiteful. Often hurtful. Defensive. Arrogant. Judgmental. In the case of males, sexist, privileged and entitled.
There are a number ways of dismantling the ego. One of them is psychedelic drugs. With the right intention psychedelic drugs like ayahuasca, LSD, mushrooms, ketamine, etc… can have some positive lasting effects on the mind. Another is meditation – extremely slow but effective if you can stick to it, which many people have difficulty doing. Another is BDSM, in particular, humiliation. The sub space for which submissives strive is a blissful place beyond ego. Humiliation in BDSM can take many forms. Being naked in front of a Master/Mistress or crowd; having self-centeredness whipped out of you; OTK spanking, toilet games, being used as furniture, being pimped out to others, licking boots/feet; licking asses;… sucking dick can be though it isn’t always humiliating, depending on the submissive. …and for cross-dressing… Some people think the humiliating aspects of cross-dressing mock or caricature women, but the most humiliating aspect of a man dressing as a woman is the failure of most the men to come anywhere near the sublime magnificence of all women in both appearance and sensibility.